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Writer's Block: Every ending is a beginning 
13th-Dec-2009 09:32 am
Bronze Phoenix
If a loved one got diagnosed with a painful, terminal illness and asked you to help them terminate their life before they deteriorated, would you do it? If so, would you want to be present during their last moments?

I would not. Moreover, I'd be so angry that they would ask me to do something like that, I would report them to their doctors and have 'em put on suicide watch. That's a horrible thing to ask of somebody!
14th-Dec-2009 04:37 am (UTC) - Re: Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that
Perhaps I should clarify:
It's not the refusal to help someone kill themselves (which is understandable) that bothered me, it was the anger.

Giving up and committing suicide is the evil and selfish thing to do.
No, it's not. It's actually not "giving up", it's the recognition of inevitability - because you *will* die, now or later. At least this way a person with a terminal illness does not make his or her family watch them slowly waste away - and in the case of many poor Americans, sucking every vestige of money while suffering wasted hopes.
I know: I've watched several friends and relatives by marriage waste away

You must be very young and someone who has never, in the words a wise commentator on a friend's lj:
Anyone who's ever watched someone decline during a terminal illness to the point they are 70 pounds, hairless and incoherent knows there should be a kinder way
14th-Dec-2009 05:51 am (UTC) - Re: Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that
*Nods* I could see that it was my anger that bothered you. Actually. I was just going with my first reaction, which is quite possibly how I would react if somebody actually asked me to do that.

Seeing someone I cared about in that condition would be stressful. Getting asked to help kill that person would bring out a lot of emotions, despair, guilt, stress, even resentment, and I'm sure it would come out as anger.

I agree, there has to be a kinder way to end things.
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