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Writer's Block: Every ending is a beginning 
13th-Dec-2009 09:32 am
Bronze Phoenix
If a loved one got diagnosed with a painful, terminal illness and asked you to help them terminate their life before they deteriorated, would you do it? If so, would you want to be present during their last moments?

I would not. Moreover, I'd be so angry that they would ask me to do something like that, I would report them to their doctors and have 'em put on suicide watch. That's a horrible thing to ask of somebody!
13th-Dec-2009 07:20 pm (UTC)
That's kind of evil and selfish of you
13th-Dec-2009 07:36 pm (UTC)
No, it isn't.
13th-Dec-2009 07:41 pm (UTC)
Given that person is seemingly only motivated by anger, selfish it is.
13th-Dec-2009 09:22 pm (UTC) - Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that
Hi, Persephone! Thanks for the support!

I'd be angry because I don't like the idea of killing people. It's a horrible thing to ask someone to have to chose between seeing a loved one suffer and committing such a horrible deed.

On top of the emotional and philosophical aftershock of killing somebody, there's also the legal consequences to consider. A mercy killing would still be considered murder.

On top of everything else, there are new cures and treatments coming out all the time. Giving up and committing suicide is the evil and selfish thing to do.

Maybe once I had calmed down I would be more able to understand why somebody would ask that. However, even in a calmer mood, I think I would report the desire to commit suicide to the doctors. (It just occured to me that the suicidal thoughts could be a side effect of whatever treatment the person was undergoing.)

Thanks for the imput. You made me think my answer out more thoroughly.
14th-Dec-2009 04:37 am (UTC) - Re: Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that
Perhaps I should clarify:
It's not the refusal to help someone kill themselves (which is understandable) that bothered me, it was the anger.

Giving up and committing suicide is the evil and selfish thing to do.
No, it's not. It's actually not "giving up", it's the recognition of inevitability - because you *will* die, now or later. At least this way a person with a terminal illness does not make his or her family watch them slowly waste away - and in the case of many poor Americans, sucking every vestige of money while suffering wasted hopes.
I know: I've watched several friends and relatives by marriage waste away

You must be very young and someone who has never, in the words a wise commentator on a friend's lj:
Anyone who's ever watched someone decline during a terminal illness to the point they are 70 pounds, hairless and incoherent knows there should be a kinder way
14th-Dec-2009 05:51 am (UTC) - Re: Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that
*Nods* I could see that it was my anger that bothered you. Actually. I was just going with my first reaction, which is quite possibly how I would react if somebody actually asked me to do that.

Seeing someone I cared about in that condition would be stressful. Getting asked to help kill that person would bring out a lot of emotions, despair, guilt, stress, even resentment, and I'm sure it would come out as anger.

I agree, there has to be a kinder way to end things.
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